Stuck in Holding Pattern

[ben11]

Thanks Ben for the information!

Did you bring up the marriage seminar or did she?

I am almost confident that if I don't initiate contact with him, then he won't initiate contact with me, so it does hurt me because he's not the man that I know right now. I just don't understand how any person can just abandon their spouse when no 'huge' significant problems existed.

Thanks for the encouraging words!

She went for an individual session with him, and he asked her if she'd be interested in it. She agreed, with reluctance, but agreed nonetheless.

The thing about your situation about going dark. Is it working right now with what you're doing? No, it doesn't seem like it is. Stop doing what doesn't work. Try going dark. Commit to it for at least a few weeks. Work on yourself. That's your number one priority. Let your H figure it out for himself. You want him to come back to you because he wants to come back to you, not because he feels like he's being pressured or guilted into doing so.

All of us LBSs don't understand why they are doing what they are doing. Bottom line is they're doing it, and there's nothing we can do about it.