“Date night” was a bust. Maybe the actual “We need to go to Home Depot – let’s get some ice cream afterwards” scenario will work better. Clearly the Xbox one did not. Although he did tell me I should have just came and got him and told him I needed him to do something. (This is one of our issues. I had already told him that. Should I have to tell him again? Any other day, and I would have been nagging him about it by asking a 2nd time. So confusing. SMH)
H came home from the weekend in a very good mood. He was excited about all the music stuff he and his friends got done. So we had a long conversation (actually several since he got back) about it. I haven’t always been as supportive as he would like when it comes to his music stuff, so I’ve just been listening, validating, and asking questions when I don’t understand something. And I’ve been the equivalent of a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader. I can tell he likes it. LOL
H initiated most of the contact while he was gone. I was surprised at how much I actually talked to him. Most of the time when he’s in the studio, he rarely looks up. I did text him a couple of times: once to find out where our music is stored on the laptop since he had work done on it at his job, and a second time I sent a rather racy photo of me to him late Saturday night. (I used to do this all the time when we were dating.) Based on his response, he love it. LOL He also told me Sunday when I talked to him before he left to come back that he started to call me at 3 am Sunday morning to see “what I was doing” and if I was up. (He used to do this ALL time before.) Guess the picture got him thinking. ;-)
We didn’t talk at all Saturday, just those two texts. Before the bomb, I would have been highly upset, and he would have been mad that I was mad. The few times he’s been out of town since the bomb, I think he’s purposely not called me, so I was calling him to see where he was and if he was with OW. This time I didn’t do that. I figured if he wanted to talk to me he would call me, and he did. (Thanks for talking me off the ledge, Purg!)
He’s still being “Ward Cleaver”. I have to admit, I am very skeptical of this whole thing, but will reap the benefits if he wants to grocery shop and clean house. LOL I will say this…if he doesn’t do something it doesn’t bother me anymore. Well, not as much as it used to. Letting go of sweating the small stuff is SUCH A LIFESAVER. I refuse to go back there.
I can feel myself sometimes slip back into my old sarcastic self like before. It’s actually been happening a lot the past couple of weeks. So I really need to work on this. I’m almost positive it’s related to my anger towards his A. And him acting like the star of a 60s sitcom isn’t helping. I have started reading more books on anger, so hopefully things will start to shift mentally for me soon.
Still no R talks. No talk of him moving out. Guess we’re just status quo for now.
I still feel like I need to do SOMETHING for my sitch, but haven’t figured out what. Not that this one thing will shake up my sitch or have him realize what he’s doing may not be the best decision. I’m normally not one to sit around and just let things be, so I’m trying to learn how to do that. Maybe that’s what my sitch needs. *shrugs* I don’t know anymore.
