Outside the Scope of This Report Part 3

[angel61]

Beatrice, you are so right that MLC'ers seem to think that because they are so important that rules no longer apply. My H is such a rule follower, so he broke a different set of rules: that of social conduct. I remember once he brought a group of us to a restaurant without asking if we were hungry or what we wanted, and nobody got out of the car, and he got so frustrated with us! He also would not RSVP to invitations or make reservations as he always seemed to want to have the "freedom" to change his mind, or even buy plane tickets on time, then get mad if availability is gone, as though it was the fault of the restaurant or airline! Now that he is slowly getting out of the tunnel, his behaviour is going back to normal, although he still has his moments.

I do think that the best thing that being part of the DB family is that you come to realize that no matter how this saga ends, you will be OK. I am one of those whose H has never left, but I saw him through all the different phases of his MLC and the internal struggles he had, how he tried to rationalize and justify, and if I had not learned to detach, I would have ran far away long ago.

Wendy, I agree you know whats best for you, and how to protect yourself. It does seem like your H's train is off at high speed, don't get involved in the wreck.

I do believe that if you are really for each other, things will happen such that it will be restored.