Interesting read. I could have written all of that same stuff except it's ex-wife vs ex-husband. That always interests me because it seems that gender is not much of a dividing line. The stereotype is that it is.
As one of a pair of single parents, it is hard. The craziness used to bother me more too, but I see things very differently now.
Good for you for choosing to remember the good times. They were real! And good for you for gaining a more objective perspective of the past 7 years. That's really hard to do when you are being blamed for everything by somebody you once trusted implicitly for a very long time.
You also noticed patterns. Be careful though. All bets are off when it comes to regularity, so even though you saw the patterns, be prepared for them to change in any direction. Nothing is to be taken for granted.
I was reminded of that the other day. Ex was acting friendly when asking for time with my son for Easter. That led to her saying she wanted to put him in a camp over summer. I asked a few questions and she replied with an email that she was glad I brought something up I never even mentioned. She used that to then rant and complain. It reminded me that patterns are not always consistent with an MLCr. It reminded me there can and often is an ulterior motive when dealing with them.
Mine may be a hard case that never comes out. But even without looking I see changes and new personalities just like before. I see the perspective like you do and try really hard to remember that this is not somebody I know nor want to know.
Be good and be cautious, K.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
