We are also a "once a week" couple. It used to be one day a week. Then overnight. Then 2 nights a week (Fri & Sat). Now that we have a house together it is Thurs, Fri & Sat nights and most of Sun daytime. (he works from the house on Fri unless he has in person meetings). So it has evolved. Slowly... Kind of at a snail's pace. And for most people - it would not have been enough. But for us - it has been.
And we talk on the phone. But not every night. Now it is Tues nights. Because, after all - I need to watch Bachelor and Dancing with the Stars. And truthfully - I like my time to do my own things too. So on Mondays and Wednesdays we don't always connect. But sometimes there is a phone call. Or a text. Or an email.
The point is - he is a wonderful part of my life. But he is not my WHOLE life. He adds to it. But he does not "complete" me. I'm complete as a person all by myself.
I don't make his issues my issues. Yes - I listen to his problems with his job. (although he doesn't complain much). And I reflect what he is saying back to him. But I don't try to solve his problems. They are HIS problems.
And he listens to me complain about my son's agency. And he offers support. But he also does not try to solve the problems as it is my lot to sort out.
And is this enough for me??? Yes. At this time in my life - this is what I want.
Do I take stock of what I want? Yes - periodically. And for me - this is good.
