DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 5)

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"So I went over to see if there was anything I could do and she started hysterically crying. So I just let her fall into me and just let it all out. I eventually asked what was wrong and she said she has to get out of here, move out. In my mind I was thinking and feeling that is the right thing. She's got to do something with her life. I asked if something had happened to bring this on today and she "nothing" and "everything". She said she has "f"'ed up her whole life, and hurt me and the kids beyond repair and can see how far removed from us she has become or we from her"

Wow! A lot of raw emotion wrapped up in this, to be sure. Too bad she doesn't realize that she does have the power to reverse course and work to make things right.

Sometimes I wonder if an intervention of sorts wouldn't help in these kids of sitch's. You know, the entire family comes together to show love and support but also demand that she seek help. I wonder how that would work out.

It just sounds like your W is so lost and is just fumbling around in the fog and darkness. It is a real shame that she can't move in the direction that I think she realizes would be her salvation, which is to reach out and ask for help and then accept it once it is offered.

I guess time will tell if she can get to that place. Try to hang on, if you can.