and yeah PC, sorry if this seems like a thread jack. It happens sometimes when posters find themselves disagree with one another. I experienced a lot of quibbling amongst posters at various times in my sitch.

My best advice on how to deal with it is to read it all, take what you believe to be good advice that is applicable to our situation... and throw out the rest.

And some of these concepts, such as "unconditional love", are going to have different definitions from different people. They are concepts that we each define by our own personal beliefs and experiences. You have to define them for yourself if they are ideas that you endeavor to learn about. There are no real right or wrong answers. IMO anyway.

Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce