Divorce & Depression

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Labug Mrbond, and Denver. If you go back and reread you will see where PC states what his wife has been diagnosed with. It looks like you missed it.

I am neither a psychologist or psychiatrist. If I was I would not be posting on this site.

My background is behavioral neuroscience and electrical engineering. I know a strange combination. 7 years of schooling.

My main worries right now for PC is that he is enabling her hypomania or mania.

I think PC needs to seek out IC help to deal with being a spouse of a person diagnosed with bi-polar disorder.

I also think that he fully does not understand the ramifications of her illness and needs to learn this so he can make the right choice for his life and for his sons life.

Knowledge is strength. And it will help improve his physical and mental health. He cannot be a lighthouse when he does not have enough juice to power the lamp.

But dealing with a bi-polar person. That person has to want to get help. And the spouse needs to truly learn boundaries and have the willpower and strength to enforce them for their well-being.

And Denver. I do not think you fully grasp unconditional love. It is something that is freely given away. Expect nothing in return. It is not dependent upon any other person other than one's own self. It is not dependent upon hard times. It is just love. Plain and simple. I believe that you speak of unconditional dedication. It is something that is confusing to many BS's. Personally I blame it on the BS's own fog that they go through. It is similar to how someone deals with a death. History is rewritten to make the WS a better person than they were. Kind of like an ever repeating bargaining stage within the grief cycle.

I also believe that the self is the most important person in one's life. To be a strong husband or father one must be strong personally first. Put their mental and physical health first. So they can weather the storms because they have built such a strong foundation. And they know deep down inside that they will be OK. This allows them to make difficult choices and not wallow in limbo.

Sorry for the thread take over JC...