Cadet, you mean the post about "The Solo Partner"? I'm a bit confused, perhaps because I don't know about that book.
Or perhaps you mean to say that H is looking for me to display my "old" behavior? If that's the case, I completely understand you. Me not talking and me walking away (which is exactly what I did today when H was here, albeit in a nice way) is def new in our relationship, and it must confuse him. So if that's what you meant, you are very correct.
I got some other advice here today, which was to answer H in more complete sentences than "S4 is fine, everything's fine" in order for him to see what he's missing, which I did and which didn't really seem right somehow. I don't know, it simply seemed "more of the same". Being a bit elusive seem to be the ticket - at least for now. The less I speak and text the better. And for me, that's also a huge 180.
Makes me think of this old verse: "There once was an owl who sat on an oak the more he saw, the less he spoke the less he spoke, the more he heard I want to be like that wise, old bird."
I'm so thankful that you are looking out for me, I feel very alone in all this. Thank you. I will start drinking coffee with a fork again tomorrow morning - again.
