Ray...you didn't do anything to deserve what Beth is doing. These awful things just happened to the both of you, and most of them were born out of childhood trauma, not failures as human beings and partners.
You are in a place that is noble - facing the truth, owning your actions and were you are, inproving yourself, helping all of us, being a great friend, helping hundreds of others in your occupation.
You're one of the most honest people I know. Don't think otherwise just because of some very minor choices borne out of inhuman pain.
Ray...you didn't do anything to deserve what Beth is doing.
As much as I like to hear this, its not entirely true. She has one shot at life and being happy just like me. It was my decision at the time to make the poor choices that I did. I can take ownnership of that. I also have made the decision to be sad and full of sorrow at this point in my life. That is my choice and she is no longer part of this process. I must make the choice to be happy, confident, and true to my changes to be a better man for good. I'm working on making this choice. This cannot be until I entirely let her go. The time has come to live for me.
Me: 44 Bomb: 11/27/11 Divorced:6/12 Life goes on: 6/13
I think you and Rick would make a cute couple Elvis could do the honors!
Rick is right: you are taking this with as much honor and dignity that anyone could muster.... You have been brutally honest with yourself through this whole process, you can hold your head high knowing that you left it all on the table- you gave it all you have. Hopefully one day, she will look back and realize that she didn't do all she could to really *see* you.
Mnky, you have a wonderful heart.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Rickb have u decided on a new name yet? Hey I could adjurn the June court dste because I have an emergency trip? Wada ya think? I can say my peeps needs me to carry some old heavy canoe?
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Elvis could do the honors!