Divorce & Depression

[Denver_2010]

Denver , Mrs. PC is not in pain right now. Mrs. PC sounds like she has a full on Hypomania. This is dangerous. For all involved. This makes affairs and walk-aways look a walk in the park. Professional help is needed.

Hypomania have a tendancy to drain bank accounts, do dangerous actions that can affect their familys. Lose their jobs and even go to jail over their actions. There can be hypersexuality. There is no checks and balances in risk taking.

There is no purpose to suffering this pain. It creates bitterness.

Until she gets the proper medical and mental attention she will boomerang back and forth between depression and mania until those who love her snap and cannot take it any longer or she just leaves.

As you can see he has been the rock for his wife throughout their marriage. But it keeps leading him down a cheese-less tunnel. Something needs to change.

I do not know your back story sorry about that. As you do not know mine.

But I will state that I did not tit for tat. Adults look after their property. Since she was not capable of that basic function. I called her out on it. I set a boundary with consequences. Her actions were to test me. So I removed her and all her stuff to the guest bedroom. She had the choice to respect the property and the chores. Her choice was to not help out.

I'm not a psychologist, so I am very careful about throwing out any kind of diagnosis. IMO, this behavior seems very much in line with typical, selfish, WAS behavior.

I do agree that PC needs to protect himself. I just don't think that I agree as to how he needs to proceed here.

And I also disagree that PC has been the perfect H here. He's clearly stated, and correct me if I am wrong PC, that he has ignored his W's feelings at times, that he has denied her intimacy, and has been subconsciously angry with her. He stated that his W says that she feels lonely. While I have no doubt that her issues are a huge cause here, but one of our goals is to do some self reflection so that we can learn and grow as a result of this tragedy.

So PC - Let's maybe not focus on your W right this second. I'd like to hear more about that stuff. What is your role in this? What could you have done differently or better, if anything?

Denver