11th Hour of Divorce & Trial: What Else Can I Do?

[Yasu]

I've got an idea. A last resort. But I'm not sure there is anything to last resort with. Oh, dear. I actually read about the wedding ring option a fee times here and there.

I could send it to him as a "I throw in the towel" gesture. Which, ultimately, I have no choice but to do. My nose is at the grindstone preparing for trial on May 21.

I've just rounded up all the paperwork to support about $3500 he owes me in expenses he should have paid as ordered by th Court. He will not like recieving that notice. It was so complicated, and really, I didn't want trouble. But I desperately need to pay down my credit cards, to make room to live on my own as a single person. And he is not going to get by with this, not that I am in trial prep mode.

I have the new medication that is giving me energy, but causing me to act more picululiar than usual. I have the $12 assistant that has helped tremendously - especially, since I'm more focused for a few hours at a time. We are caught up on tasks for attorney - and beginning the update of the DRFA which is a detailed financial statement for the court.

I have another similar helper assisting on the rental. So I've done a good job deigating. But the side effect of the medication (which is essentially anfedimines) is that I have no appetite. And I'm not losing weight either. Drag.

So last night I boiled eggs, cut up tomatoes, made carrot soup. Stuff is prepared, and I had my three meals today and feel a lot better.

To those I have insulted, I do apologize from my heart. I am not myself. And will not try to propose excuses other than that.

So, my idea to return the simple little band I wore on my finger for 26 years, hmmm. I also have a 24 carrot large gold coin pendant Greek mother gave me. As well as a little ring from Greek father. I feel like returning those, as he has never told them any of my side of our issues, I am sure of that.

Another item I have is 24 carrot gold ring with a large, unusual ruby, that husband tossed at me when he retuned from another of his trips to Greece, that he had taken without me. This particular one was during our 20th anniversary. He had bought such a crappy ring before he left, and it had so many defects, that, I was really disgusted - and saw it as a buy-off anyway. (That is one of my issues - perfectionism.) And I know when a product is a cheap second - and that ring certainly was. He returned it and got a gold chain for himself.

I know I was wrong to reject the gift. But the defects in the gift slapped me in the face like the defect in the marriage celebration of 20 years, that he would leave me behind yet again for a five week vacation while I patiently waited at home.

That is why he threw the gold and ruby ring at me when he got back. He resented getting it for me. It probably cost more, and it was centaunly lovely.

So, these items are just bad reminders anyway. However they could be used as bargaining chips, but I hate thing like that. But know I must, as a trial is advasarial by nature.

The question is, would this last resort make any difference anyway? Whether just the wedding ring, or all the pieces, as a symbol of totally dismissing myself from him. It must be done without expectation, and I fully understand that. I am interested in any thought about the reurn of these items prior to the trial. Please advise only on this issue, if you will.

I cannot focus on any other matters but the trial preperation and getting tenants in the rental. Thank you in advance. Yas