Originally Posted By: breakdownbill
Hi YC

I think it's really good that we share our feelings about our partners, because it's helping us understand how they feel / felt.

I'm starting to seriously consider my options about moving out, because I don't think I can detach whilst i'm living in the same house. I'd have to see the kids everyday though, couldn't be a weekend dad.

Guys are pretty stupid when it comes to relationships and women are very complex and emotionally literate.

I know what you mean about the patience, and i'm thinking that I am not gonna wait around while she finds herself and continues her PA.

I too am not quite ready to throw in the towel, but I am not gonna be treated like this.

I've got Counselling today, boy I need it!

Take care YC

Bill


It is a good thing to understand from another's perspective - thanks for pointing that out. I think I had a bad day yesterday because I'm pretty ok today and felt love again in my heart. So, there will always be days of ups and downs, it's the long run that counts smile

Yes, even though we are not throwing in the towel, we must look after our wellbeings. So, you are right, don't allow yourself to be treated in a way that may lower your self-esteem. It is bad enough feel rejected, but to pile up further injury makes no sense. Of course, if I was completely an enlightened human being, I'd be able to see their current behavior as their lack of vision that is causing them to behave with such insensitivity towards another human being - and then let it roll of this duck's back. But, until that day comes, I will just keep an eye out for myself, as you smile

You go to uni - well, so do I! I was a total mess when all this started - even started crying at a meeting I had with one of my tutors. I was mortified and thought I was able to keep my personal life separate from my student life. I learned that lesson! Fortunately, I am in the arts, so we get to express a lot through our art and the tutors accept that. Is there anyway of incorporating your current personal sitch into your Uni work? Just an idea to help relieve some of the pressure.

YC