Your wife is bi-polar and has depression issues. You really need to determine if you can deal with this for the rest of your life. If you feel that this is a safe environment for your child.
For if it is not then you need to take the steps to protect your child. You are the adult here.
You need to learn everything about her mental issues. Every word every name, Find support sites that talk about it.
If you have doctors who are treating her then you need to contact them and let them know what is going on.
If she was on medication and is off it. You need to ask her to go back on it.
For if you want this to work out. You need to learn this and own it. For it will be a life long struggle. And it will break you if you stay the same person you are. If you think staying in this unhealthy relationship because of your son is good for him. It is not. He will grow up and learn the lessons you have taught him.
One other thing. Why do you tolerate her going out dancing to 6 am? This is another place where you need to set a boundary. Do not cover for her here. Do not tip toe around the house cause she was out drinking. Do not make her tea or food. Do not do anything for her. Do not reward bad behavior. Start GALING and get a life on the weekends. Leave the house. She will have to choose between taking care of her son or out drinking all night. You need to let her know that this is unacceptable behavior. Do not leave the light on over night. Turn it off. Let her know with words and actions that you will no longer tolerate this behavior.
If she messes up and does not take care of your son. Call her out on it.
I do hope you are writing all this down. If not. Start. And go back as well.
Cause you may end up needing the written proof. And guard this as close as possible.
And Lock down your finances. Do not let her piss away the money. If she is not paying half towards the bills. Then she needs to start.
Do not support her harmful habits.
IMHO I think you are better off going for full custody of your son and moving on. As she is really messed up.
But I will help you either way. As I understand bi-polar and being Mr. Nice guy.
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