I posted in my own thread in Newcomers under "Advice please". H came and following the advice of Chuck (the telephone coach here) I didn't act as him mom telling him what to do and giving advice etc (which is how our R has been). As a result H follows me around the apt asking all these questions about this and that and asking how various friends are doing. It was way too cold for S and H to go to the park and too cold for me to stay outside for long (I did go outside to run errands and give him and the two of them space and time). When back, I kept busy in the kitchen, and H kept coming in there. He told S the reason he won't move back here is because he and I don't understand each other, which is a bunch of crap: We have the same views on almost everything, the same interests and so on. I understand him perfectly, thank you. I understand he has met someone w/o kids and baggage, someone who is free and adventurous the way I was when we first met. So is the problem S then? Ugh. Then I took S to his piano lesson (which is followed tonight by his first recital). H is very proud of him, though I am the one who's been pushing the piano and taking him to lessons and overseen his practice. H is coming over tomorrow morning, too. Another day to rise and shine. I work from home so I spend half the nights working to get things out of the way so I can pick up and leave the apt whenever H gets here. Just to give him space, space, space. Though today I had a feeling he really wanted to see me. He left S in the other room with a DVD on to follow me around. I had gotten all dolled up and must have smelled like a perfume factory. Also a friend called when he was here so I got the chance to laugh like a whole circus in the other room. This is just crazy. After he leaves I'm so exhausted I need to have a glass of wine to sort of calm down.
I know, our situations are very similar. Your posts stood out, when I read them. It would be nice to meet or at least talk on the phone.
