Keeping the Kids Out of It

[PrincessP]

I want to specifically ask about the following in “The Lighthouse” MLC resource posted by Smurf_SMR (02/06/06)

You show the path by also protecting the children from their painful actions. Set clear boundaries that the Other Person is not part of your children's lives...without Love Busting. Offer alternatives that let them see the children, but be clear that the Other Person is to have no access to them. You fill the children's lives with stability. They deserve it and need it more than anything else.

How do you say to your S that your child(ren) cannot be in this mix without love busting? Technically I don’t even know about the OW. How do I say “you are not subjecting our D4 to your current OW”? Sorry I am being so obtuse but this still remains my biggest question and why I started this very thread.