Concentrating on getting myself better is exactly what DB says to do now though, so I don't see that as conflicting. Aspects of the books have been very helpful, such as dressing better, all the little things they say to do for yourself is exactly what my doctors are saying. They don't use the term GAL, but its essentially what they are saying to do.
Plus I still have to interact with my wife concerning the kids. Being with my kids is one of the few times I feel ok.
M 42, W 40, S 11, D 9 Together 20 years, married 15 W Dropped Bomb 1/12/2012 I moved (kicked) out 1/27/2012
