At the beginning of my stitch I questioned numerous times about OMs which she denied. I questioned some more about OMs later and she denied it. There is now another OM and she has a close friend who went through a D that started dating OMs before her D was over as well as her father who cheated. I don't say that to blame them just to point out these are the people she confides in for advice and examples. I really think that she will deny any other man again if I do say something and I would have to say something like I can provide evidence if necessary for her to admit it. I know this sounds like trying to be right but I really think she will just deny it again and brush it off as she has done with everything else that she will not own up to.
"Questioning" infidelity is pointless. People caught up in affairs will LIE about it (or "trickle truth" you to death), every single time, and it only makes you appear weak and defensive.
Either confront her with a "Look, I know all about these other men, and I cannot live in a marriage like this" or STFU (sorry to be so blunt). It never ceases to amaze me how many betrayed spouses basically ASK the fox "Did you raid the henhouse last night?"
