It sounds like you have a wonderful reconciliation opportunity before you -- congratulations! It doesn't often work out that way. That said, you've also gone through a terrible amount of stress, so proceed at your own pace, take care of yourself, and find someone to help you work through the grief and anger!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015