Update - Final Thread

[Denver_2010]

Thanks guys. There will be no more boundaries or lines drawn in the sand by me. My W knows my boundaries. It scared her when she crossed that boundary in January and she saw that my attitude was apathy... that I was done. I also believe that she is worn out by her own indecision over the last 15 months and is ready to make a decision and actually try.

I believe she is trying. There will be some contact I'm sure because he isn't done pursuing her. But she is also beginning to see that as manipulation on his part.

I'm done trying to force this. What I am doing is to be loving, understanding, and trying to hold her hand as she works her way through this and moves towards emotional growth and healing for herself.

I am good as long as I continue to see signs that she is trying.

But then again, what the f*&k do I know?! LOL

Denver

I love this post Denver, I'm an utter newbie here & was lucky enough to have a comparatively short marital explosion but I totally empathise with pretty much every word. If nothing else this experience has given you wisdom, evidenced here. Sending you good luck & good karma from across the pond. ND.

Thank you ND. I'm happy to hear that your situation resolved fairly quickly. I'm sure that it was painful though. None of this is easy for any of us... no matter how long we are in it.

Today, I am 'celebrating' the 16 month anniversary of my W leaving our home! LOL

I'm still in it and not much has changed since my last update a week or so ago. Some days though, it is hard to imagine being able to piece this M back together again. So much about both my W and myself is different. It's like an entirely new R without the excitement of a new R... but with all of the baggage.

4 months until my W's lease on her rental home expires and she will have to make a choice about moving back into our home. For me, I have come accustomed to living here by myself. I worry about that.

Denver