My H called last night to ask how my father was going - and he even volunteered to go speak to him (I'd reported that my father was being a bit difficult with a new Dr).
I declined the offer (as I know my father would tear H to shreds over what he is doing to us - H must still think I haven't told my parents).
In the meantime, I can report also that the advice I've been receiving here lately from you and others - to move on with my life - is producing the classic responses from H.
He's started calling me again instead of just texting, and is even sending funny emails.
Last night, after dropping the kids off, he came in to the house and sat with S13 to do homework - first time in months.
He also started to fix some doors, a broken kettle and some lights around the house that I had asked him about months ago.
He's also started to come to events at the kids' schools with me.
And interestingly, when the kids and I were talking about the recent quiz night that I went to, alone, at S13's school, H asked why he wasn't told about it.
I held back from saying - why would I bother to tell you about THAT when you haven't even been willing to go to things like speech nights and concerts that your own kids are performing in??? Instead, I just said "You were away at the time".
Anyway, I'm getting on and doing things regardless of whether H comes or not, but it's worth reporting that the classic distance/pursuit cycle is occurring yet again.
At the moment, I'm thinking of taking up rowing. I figure it's a good sport for all-round fitness and, at my age, it might not result in too many stress injuries. Both my kids do it, so we could make it a family affair.
Plus...I figure it might be a good way to meet some single guys with good physiques!
Anybody out there know anything about rowing?
Would it be too silly of me at age 53 to start?
I do use ergos at the gym, but find it a bit hard to do well - as well as a bit boring. Rowing on the river looks so beautiful by comparison.
