PP, I'm sorry you found out about OW and that it should have to happen over your daughter's bday weekend, but at least now you know. I found out, like I wrote here, through a text H sent to me but which was meant for her. She is older than H (who is 39) and younger than me (I'm 43). But H always preferred "older" women, so no surprise there. Before I found out about DB, I pried, found her phone number and called her, which now I realize I should have never done. H is totally enamored with her. It's all very MLC.
I've been doing great at DBing lately. I feel very angry with H at times, but have decided not to act on that. I used to talk, talk, talk and now I don't say anything. I do wonder though if H feels that "Oh, she's fine" and just enjoys OW even more when he sees that I seem perfectly OK? But NOT DBing obviously doesn't work, so what other choices do I have?
Perhaps the veterans on this board know how people can get in touch with each other privately here? I have no clue. I would like so much to have someone to talk to about these things over coffee, someone who understands. I've told very few of our friends, and I have found that few understand what an MLC really is (I certainly didn't until just weeks ago), and most of the friends I've told have told me to just leave H and move on, so I'm very careful to whom I speak and what I say. Though you and I don't know each other we are in the same boat, with children the same age, and not too far away. I sometimes get a bit depressed, all my family is in Europe and I am currently waiting for my citizenship (H doesn't know that I applied). I'm seriously thinking about going back home once I get the papers. The sad thing is that I love it here, and have a job I feel passionate about. And of course I still love H and believe our M is worth saving. Oh what a mess this is! And our poor S4 in the middle of it.
