I just want to be friends...

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The thing I worry about the most is that from the beginning of our S, he's been saying he wants to be friends. We've always been very good friends - the best of friends. This was a very friendly conversation. No romance or any form of sentimentality - other than us talking about our cats. So, I feel a bit strange because I don't want to be falling in the friends only category. Am I wrong in having that fear do you think?

Nothing wrong with your fear. Eventually you do not want a 'friendly' relationship with your H.

But again, don't be alarmed. It might start with friendship. So that is a start. When things seem to be getting better, you can always make your expectations clear that 'friendship' is not what you seek eventually.

YC: your R with your H seems like mine with my W. My W was strong too and i just like your H. Except in my case, it was my W that filed, causing me to really take a good look at myself.

I think that your H must eventually become strong emotionally. Then he would start feeling good about himself and secure in his R with you. Right now he is very insecure in the R and that is why he is 'running' away.

How he would get to that point...Not sure. It needs to come from within himself or with him seeking some help.

Seems like the root is your H insecurity of lack of confidence. If this is not addressed and if he comes back, you guys could be on the same boat again.

Yup, you are doing good on your control issues. He could be seeing this rethinking his actions.

Good luck!