I am so glad you and your W had a good ending to the day!!
Here I am just venting....
I didn't control our time together - although that's what he perceives at the moment. My issue was that we rarely spent time together. This is what I was hollering about. Anyway, it's like my H is looking for issues to have a problem with. I was thinking about it today, and I feel like throwing in the towel. Of course I won't just yet, but that's how I am feeling today.
However, I definitely like the way you describe the effects of having a fear of confrontation. My H rarely confronted - for sure - instead his mode of 'confrontation' was to become cold and distant. Oh don't get me started on that one!
You are right, guys don't talk about the way they feel so when they dig around, suddenly there are issues. But of course there are issues!! My H says regularly, "I want the relationship, I just don't want the issues." When I tell him that all relationships have issues that need working on, he looks at me in disbelief. OMG - I'm not sure I will have the patience this is gonna take!!
Ok - I feel exasperated by the whole thing today. So, take all this with a grain of salt - thanks!
