Brklyn Babe - haven't been on the boards for a while. I have been doing pretty good though and hoping same for you.
How's Clarence and the gilrs?
The part about how your H doesn't see the obvious impact H is having on the kids seems to be very common. They can't face it at all. My W cannot face it either and is in complete denial of the affects of her choices, and two of the kids are 24 and 21. Utter self deception caused by extreme fear.