(it's because me and my W have made the same type of youthful mistakes)
You and J fight dirty, right now it's more about proving who is right than about the issues themselves. You guys perpetuate your fights and multiply resentments by taking cheap shots at each other.
I recommend "the seven principles for making marriage work".
The author watched 100's of couple fight and he got good enough at predicting with 90% accuracy who would stay together and who would divorce based on how they handled fighting.
He has a chapter where he talks about the fighting styles divorced couples had in common, and another on the traits and fighting styles long term marriage couples had in common. It's a real eye opener, and could benefit you two a lot.
Otherwise you guys will just spiral out of control again.
Love this ^^^^ Jenna - heed this advise. I was in your shoes at your age and believe me if you can get this you will live your life much better than if your don't. And , you have kids at a young age just like I did....incentive to get this!!!!!!
