I'm the sex starved partner, the 11 tips are a case of been their done that. While I've just joined the forum of recent... I've been lurking the boards looking for answers, I've read SSM, I read anything I can about what could make matters better. Most make me laugh as they unravel faults or failures closer to a cave man. I've been frustrated for over six years and have done the cycle of doing what it takes to repair things. While she has admitted fault and responsibility for creating this, that point of acknowledgement has no substance in change of character.
The end result is and always has been disappointment. I once read " if your happiness requires someone else to change, be prepared to be unhappy for a long time".
My mind set is not one to include an affair, and divorce seems like the only answer to a person who has created the road to no where.
Problem is, I can not get her to talk to a professional, take the time to read SSM, or do anything positive. “My Ideas” just come off as being to easy or loaded with selfish motivation I guess!?
I think the only way she will see the light is the effects of a life altering reality check slapping her in the face and that might be packaged as a divorce. I'm at the point where I have nothing more to say to her and our last argument almost a month ago completed just reinforces this mind set.
I'm tired about fighting for something I can not get in this marriage, I've been patient far to long…. I want this to end.
