Also my bad days were not created out of bad intentions. I just felt that if we could talk it over, we could work things out. It never went that way. I always felt worse after talking and truly things were worse. I would never hear what I so desperately wanted to hear. So, in my experience anyway, talking is not all it is cracked up to be.
There is a book, "how to save your M w/o talking". Its pretty informative.
