Yean primate person...by going back and forth on this you're actually doing yourself a favor. It makes sure you evaluate everything from all angles, and it really helps you know yourself so much better. Don't get down on yourself for this. Seriously, if you didn't agonize over this there would be something wrong.
Mnky your W is very much like mine. In that they are done no more chances. pretty sad.
My H is just the same...And I believe him. Everything in him - his demeanor and his actions back up his words. So sad... :-(
(((hugs for us all)))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
I have not posted much, and by no means a vet or expert, but sorry to hear the news. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat in the next few months...but I try to take strength from the idea that D papers are just papers...and just another step along this road we call life.
There is a quote/philosophy I really tuned into and liked, I don't remember if it was MWD book or somewhere else, but I think it was based on Buddhism and it talked about a farmer who's horse ran away. neighbor said "what bad luck" farmer said "good luck, bad luck, who knows". next day the horse came back with 6 other fine horses, neighbor said "what good luck", farmer said "good luck, bad luck, who knows". the next day the farmers son was breaking in one of the new horses and it threw him off and broke his leg (neighbor/farmer reply), next day the army came recruiting and left son at home with broken leg... So we never really know what life will give us...and even the bad moments might turn out to be something good in the end. Keep working toward the good, improving yourself, making yourself happy, and good things will come from that.
Me:34, W:33 M:11 T:18 D1:6yo D2&3:4yo (twins) Bomb/ILYBNILWY/EA w/ co-worker: Oct 2011 Still in house together, she has move out date set for May 27, we tell the kids May 24...I hate "May"
Hang it there, man. It does not mean it is the end. Just part of the process. I got mine back in September - two weeks after bomb dropped. The road has been long and winding since then - and it is not over. Chin up - it hurts, but it does not mark the end.
