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[25yearsmlc]

Gunny

sorry for your pain. But don't waste time wondering if she suppressed herself or if this is an MLC or not

It does not change YOUR course of action (GAL/180s, etc) and it is a waste of time wondering these things.

Besides, people do change. We grow and evolve and some of our growth is not linear. Some of our changes are good, but not all. Sometimes we take 3 steps forward and 4 back and maybe make it up later.

I have thought of getting a motorbike too. I won't til our d is out of the house or I have more life insurance. And maybe I won't get it.

I DID get my pilot's license but I don't own a plane. Just always wanted to do it, and go skydiving. Did that twice and will again. LOVED the freedom I felt.

But in some ways yes I have felt repressed. It's not my h's fault, it's our own choice and society's expectations, etc.

I never got a grip about what your w wanted that she did not get in the marriage. Any new insights there?

I know you didn't have kids. Did she regret that do you think? is she near her family now?

Anyhow, give yourself some more time to reflect. I don't know the logistics of divorcing in your situation or how harmful it'd be financially.

But I DO understand that at some point, everyone has a breaking point. Not "breaking down"

but breaking off with the past and wanting to move forward...I get it.

But you don't have to DO anything, today....

keep talking here and see if we can help you navigate