hello golfmom,
Reading your sitch. It seems to me that things are moving incredibly fast here. What is the rush? This is a life changing situation. Is your s open at all to any kind of counseling to ensure that this is what he really wants?

Just my 2 cents, I am sorry you are going through this>

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!