I may have missed this, but has he actually said he is stopping the affair? That it is over? Have you had this conversation?
Gabbysmom23 - he has said he stopped the affair the day after I confronted him about it. We talk about it whenever I have questions (usually before we go to bed). The one time she's called him since, he's told me about. He said that his affair was a huge mistake that hurt us and that he didn't expect that I would believe anything he said. He said that all he could do is show me over time that he can be trustworthy. He has pretty much been an open book about it, and about our marriage and sex life in general.
