HI Wendy! Glad that you seem to be doing very well. I have been keeping up with your sitch although I haven't been posting much. Whats happening to you reminds me of the worst period of my sitch, when my H and the OW first decided to cut off contact. My H was so miserable then, and he would threaten to pack up and leave with everything I would say or do. But when I actually would say 'lets go see a lawyer" he would balk.
I was a total mess, unlike you. I would go crazy at times -panic attacks, etc. Even my D who was 12 was so affected - she even cut herself once.
Hard to believe that we did get over those rough times! But as For my family says, OW leaves, our spouses go crazy, but after a while, they adjust to life without OW, then slowly, good times come back.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go