I have a hard time seeing how anyone would fight for someone that doesn't want to be with them. However, with that said, I have incredible respect for those that move past it, heal and restore their marriages. But... If you notice, the ones that do so have a spouse w/a common behavior... They are incredibly remorseful and sorry. The LBS didn't sit and wait to be considered attractive again. They acted, on their own path, and didn't ride the roller coaster.
This has been my observation as well. Tremendously so.
Starsky
This ^^^
SM, you do need to draw some boundaries. When your w just takes for granted that you will dance to her tune, soccer, running, whatever, she is treating you like an on-call babysitter. Can you imagine what SHE would do if you did that to her? Just say, "Oh, w, that just doesn't work for me. You will have to make other arrangements." Will she "get mad?" Maybe. So what? You are not her doormat, nor do you exist solely to subsidize her lifestyle. She may respect you a little bit if you stood up to her. Women do NOT respect a doormat. It makes us sick! Even though we may show some anger at not getting our own way, we have respect for a strong man, not one we can boss around. If you believe nothing else, please believe this! Strong men make us feel safe. Weak men are not at all attractive. You don't have to be a dick about it, just, "Sorry, that doesn't work for me. You will have to make other arrangements."
