Each Step is a First Step

[Quorumof1]

Hey all,

Another thing comes to mind that I may have mentioned earlier but probably didn't put in details.

I was in a bad headspace when we first agreed to separate, and made comments about selling the house, dividing up assets, setting a date to determine things by, etc. Yes, I recognize that I have control issues at times.

A couple of weeks later she emailed and asked why we couldn't buy each other out of the house. I said because I didn't think either of us could afford it, not that we couldn't. Her response was that the bank said that she could afford it. My reply was I didn't want to do anything by an emotional decision and that she could stay here, with me contributing for the interim a smaller component of house expenses since I'd have other costs for my own place and left it at that. Maybe that was avoidance but I also didn't want to agree to something I'd regret later. She has fully explored the means of buying me out though as to how the process would work but I think that is it.

I have no indication that she has gone to a L yet. And the D word has never been stated by either of us, only that we should separate. At this point, I don't want to read anything into that, however, who knows.

The downside of things is that her sister left her husband a couple of years ago and is now newly married and our neighbours that we hang with at times have just split up a month ago and they've been married a similar length of time. I read somewhere here the theory that people see those around them splitting and they are more likely to critically analyze their own marriage as well and decide it is better to get out.

That's it for now, just spewing some thoughts.

Thanks for reading.

Q1