Ok thank you all for your comments. I don't have the time to respond to it all but I will take everything into consideration. I know I need to not backslide or be controlling. I will post later my results of my conversation. I try to be totally honest on this forum with you all but I will admit that I know I will get the proverbial 2x4 even though in my mind I have already given it to myself. I guess that part of the deal.
Anyway thanks for the help. Its always nice to be able to have such a experienced group to bounce my situation off. I almost wish this was a chat room or video conference type deal because it is so hard to type everything and also get the tone that is really being felt. Wish me luck.
Me:29 W:28 S:2 M: 5 years Bomb: 7-26-11 Separated: 8-20-11 EA w/ multiple OMs W filed 1/2012