I'm sorry you're going thru this, and sorry it's taking days for your posts to show up. Frustrating, when you're struggling, I'm sure.
If you have no kids involved, you may be in a better -- or at least "cleaner" -- situation than most, in that you don't have to worry about how they may be affected by all of this. Just need to do what YOU want to do, and think would make you happiest.
Personally, I would NOT have advised you to move out of your home. If she's the one wanting out of the marriage, it would be more appropriate for her to find the new place.
I gotta say, this really jumped out at me, right from the outset:
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I started IC with a couple of sessions last spring as she thought I needed to figure myself out, since she had herself all figured out already.
I found it odd that it would be your wife's place to recommend an individual counselor for YOU? My guess is that, over the years, you may have let "Quorum" get swallowed up more and more into the marriage, and become more "Mr. Wife-of-Quorum," and lost sight of a lot of your own goals and dreams, and -- ironically -- maybe what made you attractive to your wife to begin with?
This dynamic is more typical of a left-behind wife than a left-behind husband, but it does apply to men as well. I'm guessing you may have some co-dependency issues (I did .. and do!!); did your IC mention anything about that to you?
Keep posting frequently, in shorter posts -- it'll help get you off the "full moderation" thing.
