You mentioned that the sex/passion had declined almost from the day after the wedding. Were you disinterested or the LD, or was she?
Another point was her wanting to feel the "friend" connection. I read a lot of threads that talk about being best friends with their S. I don't really agree with that being what a couple should try to have in a MR. A lot of people could be her best friend(s), but only one person can be her H. That position is completely separated from being a friend. It's so much more than that. I think a lot of couples settle for less by thinking they should be best buddies. Sooner or later, one of them usually go looking for sexual fulfillment from somebody other than the spouse.
Have you ever watched that reality show where the match maker "Patti" has millionaires for clients? She finds women for these men to date, hoping to find them a wife. After the date she calls them to see how they felt about the girl. Whenever the man uses the word "friend", Patti immediately uses very plain English and tells them that they don't want to f--- their friends. Pretty much puts things in perspective. I believe she's right when she tells a man that the penis chooses. A woman can be everything a man could possibly want, but if his penis doesn't agree, then he should never be anything but her friend.
Why did your W have two EA's? I don't think she was looking for friendship with these men.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
