Don't have the conversation that I suggested. I would suggest that you continue to lovingly detach. Need to continue GALing. Try doing some new things. Pick up a new hobby. Go out. Go buy yourself some new clothes. Get a new haircut. Try to have a positive attitude and be happy when you are around her. If you are working on any 180's, continue to do so.

But don't R talk, don't pursue, and don't pressure.

My guess is that you will see a negative reaction from your W. Sounds like you already may be seeing that. What she needs to see is you moving on with your life and being happy.

Nothing can happen as long as she is infatuated with OM and he is in the picture. So this is going to take A LOT of patience on your part... and probably a lot of time.

Listen, this is hard stuff. I was successful with some of it, and not so much on the rest. I believe in it though. And I have seen the most positive progress during the times that I have done these things.

Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce