Yes, differing opinions are the beauty of this board! And, I'll be the first to admit that mine aren't perfect. I will say, though, that I'm usually watchful for transferring my own personal story into someone else s life/situation... But, I'm not always successful!
I think his wife is just wrong, wrong, wrong... but, she wouldn't be ALL wrong if he set some darn boundaries/expectations of her. Snowman doesn't lead his family. He lets the wife lead, usually on her most recent whim.
I read both threads. Mostly, just his posts.
Brats have high levels of expectations, and have no regard for those providing the service/good/feeling.
Just a few examples that I can remember: His wife moved out w/their son, into a "room" in a shared home. He let her. His wife has expected him to finance most of her new lifestyle. He has. He "exposes" her infidelity, and continuously finds more evidence of it, but still pays her cell phone bill. She plans a single woman vacation on a weekend/week that she has her son, then "fills him in" after the fact, that he's in charge of the son. He agrees. And, how about the tuition money/loan, etc...? EEK
I'm sure he's contributed to their breakdown. He needles her for a new status of them, hoping for one that he likes better than the present. But...
Something tells me if he just stood up to her, and for their family, she might just find him desirable again!
His wife
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
