Bill, does she know why you are doing what you are doing? Have you told her that you will not be a part of a marriage that has third parties involved? That she needs to cut off contact with OM?
Personally, if not, I would have that convo so that it is clear that your recent behavior is not just a temper tantrum. I'm not saying it is, but you don't want it perceived that way by your W.
IMO, you need to have ONE conversation with her letting her know what your boundaries are.
Denver
Hi Denver
The last conversation about our M was last Thursday and my W said she was done and that she's not trying anymore. She added that when my course is finished at the begining of May, we'll sort out the seperation. I'm a bit wary of bringing the conversation up again as she has pretty much said it's over between us. So I don't know if that conversation will achieve anything for me besides push her away even further (if that's even possible).
I can see the logic, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do, I don't exactly have much leverage and my detaching has done nothing but hack her off so far.
Do you still think it's wise to have that conversation?
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
