Oh & Bill I re-read your kind words re my sitch. It isn't that I won't post it I just haven't worked out how to do it! So for you my sitch:

Me: 41 H: 40
M: 2+ yrs T: 17+ yrs
No kids just Dog!
Bomb: ILYBNILWY & wanted a divorce 11/15/2011
Confirmed EA: 11/24/2011
Reconciled: 12/16/2011
Confirmed PA: 01/08/2012
Just taking it all one day at a time!

In some ways although this has been the most excruciatingly painful experience of my life, I have learnt so much & gained so much. I was lucky because I found Michelle's website & books before I found out about his affair.