NLW, if he will come back, it won't be because of things you do to induce him to. It will be because he figures out that life without you is not what he really wants (or that removing you from his life was not the solution to his unhappiness, etc.).
My W told me recently that she had a clear a-ha moment that started her back towards me. I had completely removed myself from her life (separate everything, fixed custodial arrangements), told her that I did not want her to call or contact me any more unless it was an emergency issue about the kids, and told her that I wanted to begin D proceedings.
During this time of no contact, she had a crisis situation happen that made her take stock of what her life had become, of how she was hitting bottom. She had an epiphany that pushing me out of her life had just ruined it and not fixed it. And the one person she wanted to call and talk to about it was me. And she couldn't because I was moving on.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
