I felt like it generally went very well. We talked about the past and the future. It was a deep talk between friends; stayed calm and friendly. We went over a lot of what I'd been seeing about the past, about how we didn't deal effectively with a lot of the very stressful stuff in M. I don't know that either of us agreed to anything, but she was saying she might be willing to stay here for a year for me and the kids, and I said I might be willing to do the birds-nest custody schedule. We talked about my struggles and hers with bulimia and the similarities, etc. Afterwards, I gave her a good hug, which is more affection than we've shared in over a month.
One huge negative is she lied straight-out about her R and plans w/OM. I challenged a bit, but I couldn't tell her I've been spying on her facebook (I really need to stop that!!) so I just let it go. They are leaving to go back there tomorrow for spring break, and I'm 90% sure they are coming back after that. She said to me she has no plans w/OM, but they totally have plans.
I know I broke some DB rules, but I think I did pretty well. I think I am strong enough to hang out in limbo, but if she is ready to talk, then I have to engage or stonewall.
Next week, besides really focusing on GAL and 180s while I'm home alone, I think I will also buy my first coaching pack. Thank you guys. Let me know what you think.
