After today I've lost all hope. My husband left preliminary mediation papers on the porch this morning. I told him I was not agreeable. I met with an attorney today and have a plan in place if I'm pushed. If he wants a divorce he can file. I've asked him to leave me alone. For me that's a180. I'm hoping to stall. For what it's worth, my attorney said that quite often the spouse that wants out at some point later in the proceedings or afterward has a change of heart but by then the other spouse has moved on.
I think that does happen a lot.
Try to handle the relationship and separation agreement separate. Most states are either equal (not much to fight over unless disputed over valuation of assets), or equitable (spouse gets to keep pre-marital assets or stuff that is bought with them). There are usually formals for alimony (if that applies in your case) and pretty much always a set state guidlines on child support. I would just not discuss it with spouse just let attorneys work it out.
