Had a tough morning - thinking about M - but bounced back & noone saw me down or upset (which is good).
I thought I would try & shake things up a bit and go wild with the cleaning. Tidied all downstairs & hoovered, put washing away, washing on etc & did something I've never done since we've been together cleaned the BATHROOM. I thought well it'll just keep my W curious and it's a 180 for me. Then I noticed she's no longer wearing her engagement or wedding rings (not a good sign).
When W came home early she was very angry & short - asked her how her day was, got a firm OK - so I pulled back. 15 mins of silence W- you having a drink - me - no thanks I'm good gotta bottle of water.
W decided she was taking the kids to a friends house tonight (no invite for me)not worth an argument although I would usually go & have fun there. When she was leaving I just asked if she was going straight there from School (only to gage if I'd see the kids for a bit)- I got - Yeah, why are you asking me? Me - just checking - pulled back. W leaves and slams the door - huffing
Is this what they call the resentment stage - where I am seen as the total cause and reason they feel bad and must remain a target until told otherwise.
I haven't rose to any of the bait, but I'm just wondering how long it'll be before she snaps - any advice on how to handle all this bad feeling? (given my sitch - I feel like a sitting duck)
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
