wow, I have to say. That was a well thought, detailed analysis of your marriage Alamo.
Some things are not right. Yea that is to be expected. But what you have here my friend is a unique window into yourself provided by a woman. Even if you don't end up with your wife and someone else, this analysis can surely help you to be become quite a catch.
Maybe a lot of the issues your wife is talking about: you have done a 180. Perhaps she is not seeing that yet. Or perhaps they are still lingering.
I know that the language can seem harsh especially when its coming from our spouse. But you gotta keep that aside and look at the dry details. In time your wife will surely see the new your. But its gotta be authentic and from within.
Live strong man!
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