JS, I am very glad to hear you are in a good place.
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
I believe some of the issues we had stem from those occurrences and my inability to properly perceive what was causing W reactions. I believe W has to some extent retreated back to the age she was traumatized at and is trying to cope again from that point. This is not the only cause and people are more complex than this. I understand she is in therapy to help her adjust to this divorce. I pray she is able to discuss the other issues she has and finds a way to resolve those also.
I hope your W is able to discuss some of the other issues. I think you're probably correct - those issues are not the cause of what's going on, but it's likely they are contributors. As you know, the D is heaping more emotional baggage on top of the pile of baggage she already has. Who knows? She may progress enough to the point where it'll be up to her to convince you she had changed. I think you have the right idea, though. Keep moving forward with this new life you're building for yourself.
