Everything that was posted, seemed to be so ...one way or the other.
I agree with what Cbug is saying, you have to protect yourself.
What I am suggesting is...that you address only the things that need to be addressed today..
What you are feeling, is coming from your emotions, and rarely do decisions made from emotion, turn out well...
I'm not sure if it too late or not...but once you ring that Divorce bell, you can't un-ring it....
I'm assuming that it is not what you want, so why should you work toward that ???
I recommend talking with your lawyer about filing a temporary custody and support order through juvenile court. It would be immediate, and yield the results you are looking for, and would also allow you some time to make these other decisions after you can get to a clearer state of mind...
I also recommend that you keep a calendar of the time you are with your Son, and with your spouse. I would also start a daily journal of events, write out any interactions , and arguments.
This is also part of protecting yourself and your time with your Son.
As far as sharing with her....
You can share what you are comfortable sharing. IF you can handle the interactions, and be a positive ray of light ?
Then, why not....
Just make sure when you withhold information, you do it for the right reasons....
I think you may have some "revenge" thinking in your system, and a child should never be used as a "pawn"...
If you are comfortable with 50% custody, then work towards that.....nothing more, nothing less...
If you feel that you want full custody ? ( based on what you have done in the past, I can see you working for that), then make sure you are doing it for the right reasons...
