I'm glad you have found a book that helps you understand a bit your husband's mindset as he goes through a MLC, but I would strongly suggest that you do NOT share this information with him. Much like with your DB/DR books, it's not wise to share your "play books." I'm afraid it would come across as pursuing and that he may see it as condescending behavior from you. Instead, just file away the information you have read in your mind and heart. If he comes out of his fog, he will realize these things on his own. Cross that bridge if/when you get there.
A book I strongly suggest for you is The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, by Susan Anderson. It was a godsend for me when going through my separation, and I really believe it would be beneficial to you. Girlfriend, I wish I could give you my personal copy (with all the highlighted text and notes!).
Again...my suggestion is to take your husband out of the equation right now. You cannot "fix" him, and he doesn't want your help (he most likely doesn't think he needs help anyway). So look to "fixing" you and making NLW the best lady you can be...for YOU, for your kids and for your other loved ones. Become the woman only a fool would leave. And if your husband misses out on that...well, then he's the fool.
